A blog by Jean M. Schmith Darkness seems to be all around us and the answer of many people seems to be–MORE DARKNESS Dan teaches a principle that appears to be obvious, but in practice, it is anything but. “You
How to stop passive-aggressive picking and shut down the people who use it Passive-aggressive picking can go past being “annoying” to being degrading. Passive-aggressive picking is finding fault in you, but doing it in a manner that is not straightforward,
Sometimes you just need more time to do the job right This can be a problem when your boss needs it done now, or when your customer is anxious to have the problem solved. What do you say to the
Blog by Jean M. Schmith Table-pounding, yelling, and name-calling are how toddlers express anger and frustration. Why do kids engage in table-pounding? They need ATTENTION. They are saying “Hey, I have a need and you’re ignoring it.” So parents turn
Is confronting and fighting the same as “brave”? In American culture, people who confront and fight are frequently seen as heroic. Take the iconic Dirty Harry–the cop who always confronts and beats up the bad guys. We clap and cheer
Empathy: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another Consider these situations, in which you don't show empathy: You’re driving down the street and are cut off by another driver. You begin to become angry at the rudeness
What is Emotional Intelligence and how does it relate to your communication skills? Everybody knows what IQ is, but fewer people know what EQ (emotional intelligence) is, and how EQ relates to your success in life. Since EQ is every
Negative people–they’re everywhere Are you transforming your environment or are negative people transforming YOU? This Communication Skills Training post is taken from Dan’s book Energy Vampire Slaying: 101, and deals with how to handle severely negative people called THE NEGADDICTED.
The Diplomatic Decline is the Definitive NO! Do you have trouble saying no–and then regret that fact–when you realize you’ve committed to something you don’t want to do? Then read the letter below from Confused in Cleveland, and Dan’s detailed
Who is the sniper in your office? Say it isn’t YOU (right?) Dear Dan: I am working with someone (another female) that has a very twisted, sick sense of humor. All of her jokes are usually at someone else’s expense.